You can make any excuse in the world when it comes to your health,
but there is nobody tying you down and force-feeding you chocolate chip
cookies. You decide what food you put in your mouth. You decide whether or not
to go to bed early versus watching series, and you decide whether to workout or
not. As a life-long binge eater, I know what it is like to feel like you do not
have any control around food, but the truth is, nobody is forcing my hand to
reach for the food cupboard.
The only reason you still carry on with bad habits or eat foods
that are high in sugar, processed carbohydrates, and chemicals is because you
allow yourself to.
There are things in life we cannot control, such as
developing an illness, but you can control your lifestyle and decisions around
food and greatly reduce your chances of developing heart disease, adult-onset
diabetes, inflammation, etc.
If you struggle to lose fat, you know that there are
probably things that you are doing wrong that are getting in your way of being
successful and becoming as healthy as you can be. If you have problems with
high insulin, choosing to eat carbohydrates and sugar is not exactly ideal, but
it is a decision.
Identify your excuses, and then work out how you are going
to take back control. If you regularly use going to social events and not
having control over what food is served as an excuse for why you struggle to
stick to your healthy diet, then put some healthy snacks in your car or bag, or
eat just before you go. If you make sure that you are always prepared, you will
not go hungry or be able to use it as an excuse to eat junk food when not doing
so is a goal you have set for yourself.
If you eat unhealthy things because you do not want to
offend someone, remember that they might feel offended for a few minutes, but
will probably get over it and get used to it over time. You, on the other hand,
could end up feeling the negative effects for much longer, especially if you
are allergic or intolerant to gluten or dairy, and what you eat contains it.
Eventually, they will stop offering you unhealthy foods and
accept it. It might be painfully uncomfortable for you to say no in the
beginning, but just push through and people will start to accept the new,
If you do want to indulge at a party, you can do so. It is
your choice. Just do not say you could not help it or that you had no choice
but to eat it. You are 100% responsible for the food you eat. If you want to
eat a cupcake and you know it is high in sugar, but you also know it will be
delicious and completely worth it, then you can eat it. You do not have to feel
bad about it.
When you are diagnosed with a condition or illness, that is
something you cannot control, but you can decide how you will live with it
going forward. You can just listen to what your doctor says, or you can hear
what your doctor is saying, take it into consideration, and start doing your
own research on what you can do in terms of diet and lifestyle to improve your
symptoms or quality of life. Perhaps you can even get rid of them completely.
Educating yourself on your condition or illness is your
responsibility. Living in order to manage the condition is also your
responsibility. If you were diagnosed with emphysema due to years of smoking,
it is your responsibility to stop smoking to avoid making things worse. And if
you are smoking, but still seem healthy, you know that it is your
responsibility to stop smoking, so that you can protect the health of your
Make two lists. On one, write down all of the things that
you are doing, and that are in your control of, that you should stop doing. On
the other list, write down everything you can start doing to improve your
health. How can you take control of your health? How should you take
You do not have to change everything on the list at once,
but start changing things one at a time as you become a responsible adult who
makes decisions that benefit their health.
Also, become aware of the way you talk to yourself. If you keep telling yourself “I need this (insert treat name here)”, then you lose your power. It implies that you have to have it, when you actually just want to have it. You feel more powerless against your craving.
By changing the way you talk about temptation and
indulgences, and simply changing the word need to want, you are developing a
more empowering mindset. If you then choose to eat the cupcake or pizza, it is
because you wanted to. Own your decision.
Stop allowing yourself to do the self-sabotaging habits that
you actually really want to stop doing. Know that you are in control, you are
responsible, and that you can change your behaviour if you really wanted to. By
this I am not saying that it is easy at all.
For some, they only need to make the decision not to eat
sugar again once, and will be disciplined in that aspect for the rest of their
lives. For the more normal people, any change, especially when it comes to diet
and lifestyle, is difficult. Keep reminding yourself that you have a choice and
that you are responsible for your health. It will become easier, and after a
while, it will become second nature.
You can choose to make decisions that will bring you a lot
of pleasure in the moment, but will cause you, your family, and your friends
misfortune in the future, or you can make choices that benefit your present and
future health and happiness.