How I am Trying to Sort Myself Out 

How I am Trying to Sort Myself Out 

I have been transforming into the queen of getting shit done. I like making to-do lists and I like ticking things off even more as I have done them. 

For me, putting tasks on my to-do list is a way of planning my wins for the day. I believe it is really important to dream big and to have aspirations for the future but to then break your big goals into smaller goals and focus on trying to win one day at a time. 

One of my current goals in life is to sort myself out as Jordan Peterson told us to. I am trying to become the person I have always wanted to be, which is basically someone who has her shit together. 

  • I want to become good at turning chaos into order. 
  • I want to live in a beautiful and organised space. 
  • I don’t want to look like I just got out of bed when my husband comes home at the end of the day and I am still in my pyjamas and haven’t washed my hair. I want to feel confident when he walks into the door looking gorgeous as always. 
  • I don’t want to be behind on my work tasks or the articles I want to write. I want to feel like a superwoman, even though I know I’m not actually a superhero. 

So, what does my idea of sorting myself and my life out currently look like? 

I Started a Minimalism Challenge

I hate clutter. When I was younger, it didn’t bother me as much, but as I got older and no longer live with a mom who forces me to clean often and I can be a little more relaxed with my chores (my mom’s standards were way too high), I realised that clutter actually contributes to my anxiety. 

I set myself a challenge where I am sorting out each area in my house and trying to move toward minimalism. My goal is not to end up with my house looking super minimalist, but to get rid of anything and everything I don’t need and that doesn’t “spark joy” as Marie Kondo would say. 

The goal is to become as minimalist as possible. 

I Am Improving My Habits

If I am going to become the 30-, 40-, 50-, 60-, and 100-year old I want to be one day, then I will need to develop the habits now that will help me get there later. 

Habits I am trying to incorporate and would love to do for the rest of my life include dancing to one song a day, posting a blog post every day, doing a proper skincare routine, doing red light therapy every day, reading every day, clean my space for 30 minutes a day and walking every day. I am already working out regularly and following a healthy diet, so I want to continue those habits. 

The list might seem long, but each habit is really worth pursuing in my opinion. I have given a lot of thought to which habits are the most important. 

At this point in time, these are the ones I want to focus on. 

I Am Becoming More Assertive and Learning to Say No

I feel like part of being a grown-up is saying no when you want to and need to, hopefully with confidence. 

You get one life. You never know when it is going to end and you need to spend your time wisely. So part of my goal of sorting out myself and my life is learning to say no and becoming better at prioritising. 

That also means saying no to myself more as well when I want to do things like buy stuff I don’t need, eat food my body doesn’t need, do things that aren’t worth my time and that are bad for me, and say yes to something because I will feel bad if I say no. 

I Am Doing All the Adult Things 

I made a list of what I call “adult things” and am trying to tick them off one at a time. Adult things I need to do include:

  • Going to the bank
  • Start saving more money each month 
  • Shop more efficiently 
  • Get a health check-up 
  • Do my taxes (fun)  

I Am Taking Care of My Health 

I’m trying to put my health above all other goals. 

You know what I think I should do? Try to incorporate a rule that if I have to choose between doing something like reading or cleaning if it means I have to sacrifice one of my health goals for the day like getting 7 to 9 hours of sleep and doing my workouts, it is okay to skip some of the other stuff, but the health goals are the most important. 

I want my health to come first. As a workaholic, it is not always easy to ignore something I want to do that is work-related (not something I need to do) and go to bed when I need to. 

Like now. It is time for bed, but at least I have done all of the things on my to-do list for the day and can go to sleep feeling proud of myself.